What does success look like to you? Is it owning your own home? Getting married and having babies? Landing a great job that pays well?
Now what does failure look like? Not leaving school with good grades? Divorcing your spouse? Not getting accepted for the job you wanted so badly?
Didn’t pass the test-failed.
Going to university- success!
Relationship didn’t work out- failed.
Got a promotion-success!
We have become so conditioned as humans as to what is regarded as a success and what is deemed a failure. We are programmed to believe that success is good and positive while failure is bad and negative.
This black-and-white thinking, this all or nothing mindset where success means you can have it all and failure means you have nothing with a blatant disregard for any middle ground is surely a defense mechanism?
What if what we initially perceive as a failure is in actual fact an opportunity in disguise? That ‘failure’ teaches us resilience by getting back up and trying again which ultimately leads us down a different path…
I look back on my life and I can see clearly now what I couldn’t see then. What I thought were refusals, rejections and setbacks were in actuality the world telling me it wasn’t my time, I wasn’t ready or that something better would come my way.
Those failures were not failures because ultimately they made me the strong woman I am today as well as opening up so many other opportunities and chances. Steve Jobs summed it up beautifully when he said, “ you can’t connect the dots looking forward, you can only connect them looking backward. So you have to trust that the dots will somehow connect in your future. You have to trust in something- your gut, destiny, life, karma, whatever.”
Shift your perspective, things that are not meant to be yours, won’t be yours. Believe in your intuition, trust in timing and have every confidence in yourself.
When one door closes, another opens.